Friday, August 18, 2017

Charlatans Help Promote Each Other’s BS

Hi A,


The poem you shared with me, don’t take me wrong! It’s beautiful, but it expresses a dependent love, because mature conscious adult can always survive without the love from others. We might be sad if someone we love leaves us, but we can always survive. Only children depend on the love from others to survive. When adults are dependent on someone else’s love for survival can become very dangerous and destructive. It’s just a poem, so no big deal! Still beautiful!


I checked X’s book at amazon and read the preview.  The moment I read the line that he decided to sit next to the man wearing a Rolex turned me off right way, it reminded of the dancers/prostitutes that instead of dancing/working would be standing at the entrance of Bourbon Street looking at men’s shoes, because they could tell by what shoes they were wearing, if they were rich or not, and then follow them into their tables and try to get as much money they could from them, even if they had to sell their bodies and soul to get to their money.

I am interested in what kind of soul people have and I look into their eyes, the soul’s window! Not into what they wear. Looks Likes he is just motivated by money! I like to help people free their souls and it doesn’t look like he is interested in no one’s soul.  So no he doesn’t look like someone I would like to make a connection with.

During our chat I shared that would be very hard to point the finger on the deep-seated trauma that might took place in past generations that is manifesting in A’s body now. The body never lies. It is trying to tell the truth in A’s body. Diet might help her condition, but I think what would help more than anything else is to pay attention and be honest with one’s feelings and be open and willing to explore our history and try to understand what A’s condition is trying to show everyone.

I don’t think I’m a little hard on X. It is what it is! Yes, I met him at the Ball and he didn’t try to make a connection with me! Why?! Because he didn’t see in me as step on the ladder to financial success?! 

His fiancé the same, she was friendly with me and we were supposed to meet for coffee, but she never follow through, why? Because she didn’t see someone in me that would help her advance in her career?!

The reality is: if I played along with the sociopaths in S and have written a book telling people what they like to hear, didn’t challenge them in anyway, didn’t require them to look in the mirror to question themselves, they all most like would be supportive of me and probably writing great reviews. They would not have come after me so viciously like they did to try to destroy me to silence me to protect their own lies and illusions.

Charlatans promote each other’s illusions and lies, that’s why the books of so many charlatans become best sellers.  And I most likely would be doing very well financially NOW, but to me true success is to be healthy, free, happy and most important have peace of mind.

It’s nothing wrong with wanting to succeed financially, but I like to succeed by telling people the truth and not what they like to hear and if I can’t make money speaking the truth I rather not make a lots of money at all. I don’t need a lots of money anyway! Having a peace of mind is more important to me! I totally accept where he is and I wish him success with his book and I hope his wishes come true, but we have to be honest with ourselves, at least in private, and see the reality and don’t fall for the pretty seductive lies and illusions that pretty much everyone in our society is trying to sell us and shove down our throats.

Like I told my sister Elza at the airport in 2005 when I was coming back to America: Believe in lies and you will be surrounded by liars, and she is surrounded by people that tells her the pretty lies that she likes to hear and she is paying a high price for believing these lies. Most people in our society are like my sister Elza, they believe in pretty seductive lies and illusions and this is why the books of so many charlatans become best sellers and society is paying a very high price for believing the charlatans seductive lies and illusions

 I don’t expect for everyone to gather the courage to let go of their masks in public and become real. 

Being real in public is a risk, a risk I was willing to take. And I don’t expect everyone to take this risk, because you have to be ready to take such a dangerous risk.

I understand he is one of your friends and you like him and is in your best interest to be publicly supportive of him, but in private is important that you see his true motivations and the truth for what it is, because if you confuse illusions for reality you are just confusing yourself, especially A that is too young to distinguish illusions from reality and is looking to you and S for guidance.

Believing in lies and illusions will keep you all permanently living in the stage of confusion and is not good for anyone’s health. This quote by Alice Miller could not be truer: “Children who are told the truth and are not brought up to tolerate lies and cruelty can develop as freely as plant whose roots have not been attacked by pests (in our case, lies)


It seems you keep falling for everyone’s illusions and it was, especially, very sad to see you fall for the illusion of Donald Trump.

Believing in lies and illusions is not good for our psychical and mental health and for society as a whole. 

Have a great week,

Sylvie



Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Family of Origin

What we have known in our family of origin will always be most comfortable to us, no matter how unhealthy that family of origin was. 


Sunday, August 13, 2017

Hurting Others is the Malignant Narcissist Pain Killing Drug

Hurting and destroying others lives is their pain killing drug. It's an addiction that keeps their own childhood repression intact. Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom page 118: "... as long our pain remains repressed we will unconsciously and compulsively do to others what was once done to us."

Arizona Senator Jeff Flake



From reading the article above I learned Senator Jeff Flake is a Mormon! I knew there had to be some Mormons in this town in power positions. 

Now explains it! Why the media never revealed the name of my ex boss that killed himself in a police standoff after robbing a bank, because he was a Mormon too! Cult members protect the theirs and the cult reputation at any cost. 

" When Exposing a Crime is Treated as Committing a Crime, You Are Ruled By Criminals."  Yes, I was ruled by criminals! And even faced with this evidence  I'm still the one being treated like I'm the criminal and the real criminals are being protected! Read more HERE about my experience with a mob of sociopaths at my job of nine and half years.  


“MESA, AZ (KPHO/KTVK) -A Chandler bank robber shot and killed himself inside his vehicle Friday morning after he pulled into a gas station several miles away in Mesa, police said.
SWAT officers from Mesa Police took over during negotiations while the suspect sat in his car with a gun in his hand. At one point, the suspect exited the car, but then he got back in the vehicle.
Officers were seen with guns drawn crouching behind their police unit.
A gunshot was soon heard coming from the suspect's car. There was never any exchange of gunfire.” Read more here

And make the connection here


The Avoidance of Truth In Medicine and the Media

Instead of handling feelings by having an opportunity to talk about them, we are given medication to quieten their effects. Therapies have been around for a long time which allow patients to experience the early repressed feelings driving their symptoms, yet we never hear about them from the media. It is as though these findings are unimportant. 

Dr. Miller believes that one reason is because of the blame which the publicity would place on parents. Because of this taboo many seeking help are not receiving it.

Even if empathetic physicians had the time to listen to their patients, most lack the understanding of the "language of emotions." Doctors have an unconscious fear of uncovering their own childhood hurts which keeps them from being as useful to their patients as they could be.

She believes that in order to heal what is needed is an inner confrontation of the early repressed abuse and the uncovering of the defenses encasing those memories. Miller believes that if physicians were at least interested in hearing about their patient's personal histories that this could help. Even recognition of one's own limitations and some knowledge of psychosomatic medicine can be of some benefit. The widespread knowledge of the reality of the childhood of most people should be incorporated in medical training. Currently, to the patient's detriment, this information is more or less completely ignored.
Read more Here

Friday, August 11, 2017

Most Shrinks Are From Hell

"Jacques Lacan's very name signifies fear in the hearts of graduate students who were once forced to wrangle with his notoriously difficult body of work. But for all his dense prose, the philosopher is widely considered one of the greatest thinkers of the 20th century. His weekly seminar was a veritable event and saw France’s most prominent thinkers in attendance, and he founded the Freudian School of Paris. Through his works, he transformed the fields of psychology, literary theory, sociology, and psychoanalysis.
But Lacan was also an asshole. He stole the work of colleagues, arrogantly intimidated undergrads, and was accused by feminists of being a sadistic narcissist. He romanced the ex-wives of his friends. At least one reviewer referred to him as "the Shrink from Hell.” In the current climate of notable thinkers making pricks of themselves—like the misanthropic Slavoj Žižek, the sometime thinker and full-time asshole Richard Dawkins, or the probable NaziMartin Heidegger—Lacan’s is a name that doesn’t deserve to be forgotten." Read more HERE
From my personal experience most health professionals "are shrinks from hell" 
Me too like Alice Miller since very young age I always wonder why people take pleasure in humiliating others. As she wrote in her article  The Essential Role of an Enlightened Witness in Society"Since adolescence I have always wondered why people take pleasure in humiliating others. Clearly the fact that some people are sensitive to the suffering of others proves that the destructive urge is not a universal aspect of human nature. So why do some tend to solve their problems by violence while others don’t? 
Philosophy failed to answer my question, and the Freudian theory of the death wish has never convinced me. It was only by closely examining the childhood histories of murderers, especially mass murderers, that I began to comprehend the roots of good and evil: not in the genes, as commonly believed, but often in the earliest days of life. Today, it is inconceivable to me that a child who comes into the world among attentive, loving and protective parents could become a predatory monster. And in the childhood of the murderers who later became dictators, I have always found a nightmarish horror, a record of continual lies and humiliation, which upon the attainment of adulthood, impelled them to acts of merciless revenge on society. These vengeful acts were always garbed in hypocritical ideologies, purporting that the dictator’s exclusive and overriding wish was the happiness of his people. In this way, he unconsciously emulated his own parents who, in earlier days, had also insisted that their blows were inflicted on the child for his own good. This belief was extremely widespread a century ago, particularly in Germany." Read more HERE

Thursday, August 10, 2017

Our body cannot ‘turn the page’

No, our body cannot turn the page until we consciously feel and understand all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood. And yes, until we do this others will have to pay the price for it, especially our children if we have children.
"Your question is very important; but it contains the naïve assumption that we can manipulate our feelings without letting others pay the price for it. In reality, we cannot do so. You are saying here what everyone says, what we all have learned from our parents, in school, in church and even in most of the therapies: “One has to turn the page.” It is, without doubt, nice what is being suggested to us: to tell the hatred that it should go away and never ever return. We want to turn the page and live in peace.
Everyone wants this, and it would be nice if it worked. But unfortunately, it does not work. Not at all. Why? Because rage, like all other emotions, cannot be controlled and cannot be manipulated; IT dictates us something; it forces us to experience it and to understand its causes. It can return every time when someone has hurt us, and we cannot prevent that. Because our body cannot “turn the page” and it demands from us that we listen to it. What we can do, though, is suppress our rage, with all its consequences: Illnesses, addiction, crimes. When we do not want to feel our justified rage, because we already have forgiven our parents even the worst abuses, we will soon find out to our surprise that we passed on the same pains, which we endured from our parents, to our children or to others. If we are truthful, we will not claim that we acted “for their own good” (like that beatings are “a good means of education”). Unfortunately, this is what most parents say; this is why our society is so hypocritical.

On the page “articles” you can find my text about hatred, which should be able to help you understand better what I am trying to explain here. Also the book “The Body Never Lies” can help you to understand more."
Read more here